When it comes time in a relationship to “define the relationship” or DTR, you may find it useful to remember to use OPQRST.
Onset – How did this start? Did you start liking me suddenly? Slowly?
Provokes – Does anything I do make you like me more or less? Has it been getting better or worse lately?
Quality – If you had to describe how you like me in one word, what would it be?
Radiates – Can you point to where I seem to affect you? Just your heart?
Severity – If you had to rate our relationship on a scale of 1 to 10…
Time – When exactly did this come about? Is this the first time you’ve liked someone this way?
There. Now you have a history of the present relationship.